He never says this so I knew it was something serious. Sums it up nicely. female I came home and we resolved it and ever since everything has been fine. I don't see any good coming from me confessing, only hurt and upset and doubt, and think my time would be better spent working on my relationship, and working through the issues that are putting so much pressure on us at the moment. I'll still cross over with him at times, but it will be minimal. Why would you want to do that? Are you sure all you did was kiss? But there's a psychological ingredient missing as naturally affects the optimum biological conditions Again - your choice. I was very drunk. Guilt protects our relationships. A forum community dedicated to married life between you and your spouse. The fact he told you very soon after is good. [2] ..you showed you don't think of he and you as a team by sharing all information pertinent to the relationship; | I had a kind of aha reaction because I realized I was attracted to him. My piano instructor came over once a week, usually on a Saturday when my husband was home. Tico Franklin, now 40, faced the death . i agree with everyone there's some really good sharing here. All night I chatted and joked with a group of maybe 10 people, mostly women. I was correct, she struggles with trust. If you don't figure this out OP, it will happen again. My eyes were closed and my head was spinning. I feel sorry for those with depression, mental illness, hangnails, bad hair, bad childhood memories, etc. Personally, I think even innocently returning a kiss is cheating, although Id probably keep it to myself! Him coming to you within 2 days of his wayward deed , when he could have easily gotten away with it, this is something to consider. Even despite it included you having to become whatever degree of a low-down doity adulterer. Dont tell me that you and ______ (the girl who was staying at our house for the weekend) are lesbians? However, the fact that you kissed another guy can act as a trigger for him to think negatively of you. I mean if a person can't rely on their own strength of character and self-discipline to stop them from crossing that line, they obviously NEED an outside deterrent. I dont drink, but had i been drinking i would have chosen home is the best place to be vulnerable lol! Bringing this up is only going to hurt your SO. Guilt is a common feeling of emotional distress that signals us when our actions or inactions have caused or might cause harm to another personphysical, emotional, or otherwise. He was so drunk himself that he started singing I Love Paris and, in the middle of the song, he said in a gruff voice, You wanna kiss me? Why? Cell phones, texting, emails etc. ;-p I don't know why I need that so much, but I do. Youre just using the fact that you were drunk as an excuse. You might feel guilty about it the next day, but it wasnt a big deal. NO don't actually make it easy for him to have ANY KIND OF RELATIONSHIP with this woman!!!! Thinking of it over and over again will affect you mentally, and make it worse.